I have read several authors who compare motherhood, and life in general, to the four seasons in nature. Kattrin Davida, in her book, Tranquil Thoughts on Motherhood, views each season as occurring only once, in progression from the birth of our children to the day they become independent adults, leaving our homes only to return occasionally for a visit.
“Springtime is the greeting of a newborn infant, a time of change, filled with excitement and optimism. It is gone all too quickly but replaced by glorious summer and the childhood years; years of growth, playful happiness and long carefree days. Summer seems never-ending until autumn arrives with its fascination of change and turbulence. Our children transform into teenagers, ripe and bearing the fruits of our love and labors. These can be blustery, moody days but with a little warmth they can be lovely before the beckoning hand of adulthood comes to harvest them and winter falls. The chick flies the coop and the nest is empty as they head for colleges and jobs.”
Seen this way, then I’m definitely in the middle of a beautiful spring, and quickly approaching summer. I’m looking forward to it!
Jamie Martin of Steady Mom, has another interpretation. She imagines the seasons to be a continuing process in our days, changing as quickly as our children (and we ourselves) do:
“So which season of motherhood do you think you’re in?
Winter – Dark, hard to see growth, long nights
Spring – Growth beginning to bud and blossom, longer days, more light
Summer – Fullness of life in all its glory, Abundance and beauty
Fall – Maturity, learning to let go, the old dropping away to make way for the new
These seasons sometimes coincide with the ages of our children. But sometimes they fluctuate based on our own growth, needs (& sleep levels, perhaps?!): one day spring, one day winter.”
Personally, I prefer this comparison over the first one, but that’s just me. Maybe because it means I’ll get more than one summer. Glass half full, people, come on…
However you view motherhood, always remember that when the cold of winter is upon you, spring is just around the corner. The bright days of summer will return, and you will once again feel the warmth of the sun.
Sounds poetic, no?
OK… to apply this literally, think of the phases your children can go through: one day they are happily running around in diapers, the next you’re wading through potty-training with all its messes, stress and frustration. Even though it feels like they will NEVER get it, and you’ll be changing that kid’s diaper forever, it WILL come to an end and one day soon they will be happily running around again, but this time sans diaper, leaving the stress in the past… something I’ll need to remember in the next few months.
What season are you in? Are you tired and frustrated because of all the night-time feedings your baby still needs? I promise, it won’t feel like winter forever!
No matter what life throws at you, every hard day comes to an end… don’t let it wear you down. If it already is, BREATHE… you WILL get through this! The past is just that, past. Look ahead to the sunny future!
And if you’re like me, in the bright days of spring or summer… sit back, pour a glass of wine, and enjoy it for all its worth.