the impact of my words

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“Just hurry up!”

I catch myself saying that a LOT lately. It seems I’m constantly telling my son to hurry up with eating, dressing, undressing, going outside, coming in… everything.

It hit me the other day:

Do I really want my kids to hurry up about EVERYTHING?

Is that the message I want them to come out of childhood with?

The more I think about it, the more I realize that I want them to do just the opposite.

I want them to slow down. To enjoy life. To cherish every moment.

And if I’m always telling them to hurry up, how will they ever learn to JUST. SLOW. DOWN.

The words I say have a huge impact on the way their little minds think, the way I speak to them becomes their inner voice to themselves.

Is ‘hurry up’ really what I want their default thought-line to be? Is that what I want them to tell themselves, subconsciously, for the rest of their lives?

No, I don’t.

While there are times that it’s necessary to do things quickly, I do not want to instill in my children the feeling that life is a race against time, like if they aren’t fast enough, they aren’t good enough.

Because the truth is: they are always good enough for me, no matter how quickly, or slowly, they accomplish things.

I will always love them.

If I want them to know that hurrying doesn’t make them any better, if I want them to slow down and enjoy life, then I need to change the way I speak to them.

If I’m trying myself to slow down every day, then I need to make my words match my actions, so they can learn to do the same.

It’s going to take some time to break this habit, but I believe it’s worth it.

This Summer…

 

I get the most out of my summer vacation by “doing” the least. I get the most of my summer vacation by simply being — by simply “spending” hours.

“Spend the afternoon, you can’t take it with you.” That’s what Annie Dillard said.

~ Jennifer Dukes Lee

This summer, I plan to do as little as possible. Forget the projects, activities, scheduled events and the clock. I just want to spend my time enjoying life, family, and all the beauty around us every day.

I will accomplish very little, but enjoy every moment I can, and spend as much time as I can doing nothing.

This summer, I want to fill my hours and days with laughter, love, and just “being”.

What about you?

 

(Edited To Add: This post over at Simple Mom is all about embracing summer!)

 

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Did-It-Myself Maxi

Well, I’m a pro at planning a project (and possibly starting it) and then never getting it done.

But, today, I surprised myself.

I have this maxi dress that I bought a few months ago that I just love. It’s comfy and colorful and if I could, I’d wear it ALL the time. But, I’m guessing people would start getting a little sick of always seeing me in bold magenta stripes, so I figured, rather than spend lots of money buying other maxi skirts and dresses like it, I’d just make my own. Now, I haven’t really sewn anything since I was, like, 15, so this was kind of a big deal. But I figured if I could do it back then, I could do it now… I just had to try. So I ordered fabric and promptly told some people that I ordered said fabric (because if I don’t tell anyone what I’m planning to do, I won’t be held accountable to myself 🙂 … that’s my strategy for actually getting things done… anyone else do this or is it just me??).

The material arrived yesterday, so I washed and dried it and, bright and early this morning, I got to work. I had found this tutorial a few weeks ago, so that’s kinda what I went by, except instead of measuring myself I just traced my existing maxi onto the material, added seam allowances and cut it out…. worked great!

Here’s what I ended up with:

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Yes, I’m standing on a chair.

And then, since this one was so easy, I made another one (same design on the fabric, just a yellow stripe instead of pink)… didn’t take nearly as long as the first, now that I sorta knew what I was doing.

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I know, photo quality isn’t the greatest… but you get the idea.

(In case you care or want to make one using this same fabric, I got it from Fabric.com.)

And these skirts are so incredibly comfy, I’ve already decided I’m going to make a bunch more, probably in some solid colours too, you know, just to change things up a bit. I can’t be all stripy every day, right?

(And now that I’ve told you all that I plan to make more, I will be much more likely to follow through… heading over to pick out some more fabric now. See… it works!)

Links for a Wonderful Week

“We’re so busy watching out for what’s just ahead of us

that we don’t take time to enjoy where we are.”

-Bill Watterson

 

Have (North) American Parents Got It All Backwards? | Huffington Post – Some serious food for thought here for all us mothers!

Why Kids Need Both Choices and Boundaries | Not Just Cute

You Can’t Do Anything You Want | Simple Mom

Practical Ideas for a Summer of Learning | Simple Homeschool

Let Your Kids Get Dirty | Simple Mom

15 Ways To Eat More Vegetables | Motive Nutrition

10 Ultimate Summer Popsicle Recipes | Weed ‘Em and Reap

Have a great week!

 

 

Save Money By Shopping Online

Over the last few years, I’ve been doing more of my shopping online, especially for clothing and home décor items. And I’m becoming more convinced all the time that it’s a great way to save money… always a bonus!

There are a few ways to save when you buy online what you would buy anyway the next time you went to the mall.

Sign up for email updates from your favourite stores.

For me, it’s Carter’s, Old Navy and Zulily, just to name a few. I know those daily (or more!) emails can get a little annoying, but how else will you know when a store suddenly has a quick online-only sale? The best thing to do is to set up a separate email address solely for this purpose, so you don’t clutter up your usual inbox with all of these updates.

Get paid for shopping online.

Seriously.

I shop through Ebates. How does it work? Well, it’s simple: you sign up for an account at Ebates.ca, make sure every time you shop online you first go to their website, and then select the store you want to shop at. It will redirect you to that store’s website to complete your shopping. Ebates keep tracks of every dollar you spend and adds a certain (pre-determined) percentage of your purchase to your Ebates account, which you then receive in the mail every quarter (as a cheque).

And, when you sign up for Ebates, you can choose to get updates on sales and special events that stores might be holding for Ebates members. Every day there are a few different stores offering double cash-back or other good deals.

The only hard part is remembering head to the Ebates website before you shop.

Save money (and time!) by shopping from home.

Don’t waste your precious time driving around town looking for good deals. And we all know fuel is not cheap, so that’s an extra bonus for shopping online.

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While I love to buy most of our clothing online, I realize that some of you might not agree with me. I’d love to hear your point of view.

How do you feel about online shopping?

Wife, Mother… Artist

I realize that title is probably making you think of paints and canvases and a huge mess, like you remember from art class when you were a kid. And while that is usually the first thing that comes to mind when the word ‘art’ is mentioned, this post is not necessarily about finger-painting or making clay sculptures with your kids.

Lately, I’ve come across various articles and blog posts dealing with the idea of creating beauty in our lives. And I’ve realized that no matter who you are, where you live, or what your circumstances are, everyone has the ability to create beauty and be an artist.

After all, that’s what an artist is: someone who creates beauty. And there are myriads of ways of being an artist.

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As mothers, we have more opportunities to be artists than most people. Creating beauty not only enriches our own experience, but also the lives of everyone around us. Simple things we can do every day have the power of changing the way our families see life and the world around them.

Picking a bouquet of wildflowers and arranging them in a pretty vase can add instant colour and life to a home and make everyone who walks by smile inside without even realizing it.

Lighting a scented candle, or playing beautiful music throughout your day can drastically change the level of palpable joy and comfort your family experiences in your home.

And there are more radical ways of creating beauty in your lives. Laughter, or just a simple smile, can turn someone’s day around. Sharing a good story, baking cookies, taking a long walk on a warm evening, singing a song, holding your child’s hand, opening a window, planting a garden… all of these are simple things, but when shared with those you love, they can change the way your family will remember the past.

And by giving them, and yourself, beautiful memories, you are also creating beauty in the future, not just the present. Motherhood is an amazing thing, isn’t it?

And the easiest way to create beauty? Just. slow. down.

Look around and let the beauty you see everywhere around you enter your heart, not just your eyes.

Just slowing down can give you instant beauty and joy.

By continually finding new ways to add joy to the lives of everyone we love, and in seeing the joy in their eyes, we find joy ourselves in the knowledge that we helped them see a little more beauty in life.