(Continued from last week’s post…)
Now that we’ve discovered what our most desired characteristic for our home is, what do we do about it, what do we do WITH it?
We tailor our lives around THAT quality.
Last week I mentioned that mine is peace.
So how do I create that peace in our home? How do I make our lives more peaceful?
It’s all in the little decisions we make from day to day.
What can I do to make our home more peaceful?
Well, in a physical aspect, many things, actually: I can declutter, play soft music, decorate in a cozy style that says “come on in and relax” to anyone who happens to enter our door, cook good meals that the entire family can enjoy together, keep our home relatively tidy (the decluttering would help with this, minimizing stuff to clean up in the first place), keep our home free from expensive breakables so our children can play and live freely without any stuffiness… and the list goes on and on.
Now this may sound complicated. It’s not.
We just have to decide to do it.
You don’t have to take a course or buy a product.
You just have to change your mind.-Steven Pressfield
But it goes further than creating a peaceful, comfortable home physically. What about our actual lives, our daily activities, the over-all flow of our days?
We put our purpose first.
For me: Peace comes first.
After that, it’s all in the application…
If I plan a playdate on Monday, coffee with my mother-in-law Tuesday, a doctor’s appointment Wednesday and so on… will our lives be peaceful? No, we will be constantly leaving the house, rushing here and there, and still trying to live normal, peacful lives at home, cook meals, make sure we’re home on time for the kids’ naps, etc. The stress would ruin all the good that might come from all these appointments. If I spread them out and, say, only plan something for 2 or 3 days per week, our lives will run smoother and be quieter, hence more peaceful.
Will me cleaning the entire house from top to bottom in a week cultivate peace? No, so I don’t do it in a week. Rather, I spread my deep cleaning out over the entire year so that I NEVER have to do any spring/fall cleaning that would take away from our peaceful home, even if only for a week.
Will rushing off to town for a last minute lunch ingredient cultivate peace? No, I would have to wake the baby from her nap, race to town and back and then frantically throw a meal together probably over the noise of a crying child (or two). NOT worth it… I’ll substitute with another ingredient I already have.
You get the picture.
But, this is me. I tend to like staying at home and taking life slowly. Obviously, not everyone is like me, so you may find comfort in having a busy, full schedule. Nothing at all wrong with that – every woman and family has different characteristics and values.
So, that quality that you deeply desire for your family, that characteristic that you want your lives built around?
Make sure that always comes first.
Find something you’re passionate about and stay tremendously interested in it. -Julia Child
(Find Part 3 here)