From the Mother of a Down Syndrome Child

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Deanna posted an outstanding article on Life As Mom recently. She has 2 children, one with Down Syndrome, and shares one important lesson she’s learned since she first became a mother. Through all the trials, she eventually learned one thng:

One day I put two and two together — sometimes it takes me a while — and realized that the reason why this was so hard wasn’t because I had a child with medical problems or an extremely needy and demanding son.

The problem is motherhood. It is hard – end of story.

Head over here to read her post in its entirety. It will give you a completely new perspective on motherhood.

Mother’s Day & A Game of Hope (videos)

I just saw this video and cried… Take a look. You might want to grab the Kleenex box first.

 

And here’s a second one… totally illustrates neighbourly love!

30 Things (A Fun Way to Learn More About Your Spouse)

I stumbled across this on Pinterest a few days ago, and thought it was such a great idea, I had to share it with you. Of course, those of you following me on Pinterest have already seen this, but for the rest of you, here it is.

It’s a list of 30 things to ask your spouse (or significant other, or just a friend) to learn more about him/her in a fun way and get conversation flowing! You could just use these questions, or be creative and add more or change them.

Here’s the list, originally from Hopes & Dreams:

1. List 20 random facts about yourself.
2. Describe 3 legitimate fears you have and explain how they became fears.
3. Describe your relationship with your parents.
4. List 10 things you would tell your 16 year-old self, if you could.
5. What are the 5 things that make you most happy right now?
6. What is the hardest thing you have ever experienced?
7. What is your dream job, and why?
8. What are 5 passions you have?
9. List 10 people who have influenced you and describe how.
10. Describe your most embarrasing moment.
11. Describe 10 pet peeves you have.
12. Describe a typical day in your current life.
13. Describe 5 weaknesses you have.
14. Describe 5 strengths you have.
15. If you were an animal, what would you be and why?
16. What are your 5 greatest accomplishments?
17. What is the thing you most wish you were great at?
18. What has been the most difficult thing you have had to forgive?
19. If you could live anywhere, where would it be and why?
20. Describe 3 significant memories from your childhood.
21. If you could have one superpower, what would it be and what would you do with it first?
22. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 15 years?
23. List your top 5 hobbies and why you love them.
24. Describe your family dynamic of your childhood vs. your family dynamic now.
25. If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?
26. What popular notion do you think the world has most wrong?
27. What is your favorite part of your body and why?
28. What is your love language?
29. What do you think people misundertand most about you?
30. List 10 things you would hope to be remembered for.

Run with it and HAVE FUN!!

The Power of Getting Dressed

You know when you have one of those days where you really don’t feel like getting out of bed, let alone getting dressed? And when your day starts like that, you usually end up being very unmotivated, and can be found in your PJs at noon with your hair still looking like a rat’s nest and your teeth unbrushed…. you know what I’m talking about, right? Those days where you really do all of nothing for most of the day unless you absolutely have to.

Well, I have a solution: dress for the day you want to have.

It’s true. If you dress in sweats and a baggy T-shirt, you’re going to feel like having a lazy, sit-on-the-couch (or in front of the computer) kind of day, hoping no-one decides to unexpectedly drop in for coffee because the house is a disaster zone and you look like Einstein.

But, if you dress in clothes that make you feel awesome, you’ll be more motivated to get things done, organize stuff, cook healthy and tasty meals, exercise, clean something, make your bed, etc., etc.

You get the picture.

You don’t have to have a reason to dress up and look good… being a woman is reason enough, even if you’re just staying home all day.

So today, just do it. The minute you get out of bed (or as soon as you read this, depending on how your morning has gone so far!), dress in your favourite clothes (ones that make you look and feel great), do your hair, wash your face, brush your teeth, and feel the motivation kick in.

On the other hand, if you really don’t want to have a motivated, successful day and you really, REALLY just want to do nothing for hours, by all means, stay in your PJs and relax!

My point?

It’s all in your control.

Intentional Motherhood

As mothers, we are often preoccupied by household duties, cooking, etc. and it becomes very easy to care for our children on autopilot, without giving our full attention, or hardly any thought at all at times. I know I find myself doing this occasionally and I find it helpful to think about what kind of mom I want to be and then making a few changes to help myself get to that point.

Jamie Martin of Steady Mom wrote a post recently about being a more intentional mother. Here’s a small excerpt:

How To Be a More Intentional Mother

1. Show up.

Too often we are present with our kids physically, but not present mentally. Guess what? They can tell!

2. Do what needs to be done.

We need to set our priorities and then follow through. While we need to choose peace over productivity, there’s no getting around the fact that on a daily basis there is also plain old hard work that needs to be done.

You can find the rest of the post here.

Hope it helps you in your personal journey as a mother like it helped me!