I have read several authors who compare motherhood, and life in general, to the four seasons in nature. Kattrin Davida, in her book, Tranquil Thoughts on Motherhood, views each season as occurring only once, in progression from the birth of our children to the day they become independent adults, leaving our homes only to return occasionally for a visit.

“Springtime is the greeting of a newborn infant, a time of change, filled with excitement and optimism. It is gone all too quickly but replaced by glorious summer and the childhood years; years of growth, playful happiness and long carefree days. Summer seems never-ending until autumn arrives with its fascination of change and turbulence. Our children transform into teenagers, ripe and bearing the fruits of our love and labors. These can be blustery, moody days but with a little warmth they can be lovely before the beckoning hand of adulthood comes to harvest them and winter falls. The chick flies the coop and the nest is empty as they head for colleges and jobs.” 

Seen this way, then I’m definitely in the middle of a beautiful spring, and quickly approaching summer. I’m looking forward to it!

Jamie Martin of Steady Mom, has another interpretation. She imagines the seasons to be a continuing process in our days, changing as quickly as our children (and we ourselves) do:

“So which season of motherhood do you think you’re in?

Winter – Dark, hard to see growth, long nights

Spring – Growth beginning to bud and blossom, longer days, more light

Summer – Fullness of life in all its glory, Abundance and beauty

Fall – Maturity, learning to let go, the old dropping away to make way for the new 

These seasons sometimes coincide with the ages of our children. But sometimes they fluctuate based on our own growth, needs (& sleep levels, perhaps?!): one day spring, one day winter.” 

Personally, I prefer this comparison over the first one, but that’s just me. Maybe because it means I’ll get more than one summer.  Glass half full, people, come on…

However you view motherhood, always remember that when the cold of winter is upon you, spring is just around the corner. The bright days of summer will return, and you will once again feel the warmth of the sun.

Sounds poetic, no?

OK… to apply this literally, think of the phases your children can go through: one day they are happily running around in diapers, the next you’re wading through potty-training with all its messes, stress and frustration. Even though it feels like they will NEVER get it, and you’ll be changing that kid’s diaper forever, it WILL come to an end and one day soon they will be happily running around again, but this time sans diaper, leaving the stress in the past… something I’ll need to remember in the next few months.

What season are you in? Are you tired and frustrated because of all the night-time feedings your baby still needs? I promise, it won’t feel like winter forever!

No matter what life throws at you, every hard day comes to an end… don’t let it wear you down. If it already is, BREATHE… you WILL get through this! The past is just that, past. Look ahead to the sunny future!

And if you’re like me, in the bright days of spring or summer… sit back, pour a glass of wine, and enjoy it for all its worth.


4 thoughts on “Seasons

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  2. What a great comparison to parenthood! As a mother of 3 teenagers, I still consider it summer.. LOVE this age as well (I have said that every step of the way though:). Kids are turning into mini adults, with reasoning and self-growth galore! Yes, the transition of letting go is a tough one when thought of as ‘letting go’ but the friendship grows and the pride as well when you see them making wise, responsible choices and turning into such awesome people! And they TALK to us.. I treasure it! I love seeing this as a parent! And the frequency I am laughing so hard the tears are streaming down my face because of them is priceless!!

    • Ditto- like you, I also love this stage:) Watching them find their own way, exploring all the options, laughing along when they tell of things gone ‘wrong’ and watching them learn from the ‘mistakes’- which are no longer mistakes but have become life lessons. It’s awesome to share their experiences with them- whether literally or the retelling of it later:)

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