What Makes The Perfect Home?

As mothers and young wives, we are often obsessed with cleaning and organizing and making sure our house looks good enough to entertain guests at any given time. But sometimes, that’s not what it takes to make a home REALLY a perfect home for our family.

Our homes are to be a resting place, a refuge for all members of our families; a place where we can be ourselves and relax a bit, the place where we are the most comfortable in all the world. Does a perfectly clean house always cater to that?

Here is an excerpt from a post I read recently, written by Emily Walker of Remodeling This Life:

“I was home alone. No husband, no kids. Just me. It was quiet – too quiet. And lonely – too lonely. They went on a two week trip together to end the summer before school started and had the time of their lives while I stayed home and went to work and held down the fort at home.

For the past five days now since their return, my home has been chaos. Unpacked suitcases with clothes spilling out of them on bedroom floors, toys dragged out from the tidy playroom and spread all over the living room – perfect for tripping on. Clutter all over the coffee table and counters. Dirt on the rugs from summer feet running through. A blanket fort built across the living room.

My home was perfect when there was no one in it but me. It was boring and there was very little life being lived in it.”

Hop on over here to read the rest of her post.

Maybe it’s time we start letting go of the cleaning and straightening and fussing, and just take some time to enjoy our children while we still have them. After all, how do we want them to remember us when they are 30? Do we want them to see us as an obsessive cleaning freak with no time for her kids, or as a loving mother who was always present and helped create fun memories for them?

I think I need to start rearranging my priorities… how about you?

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Ideas for the Last Weeks of Summer

We are very quickly approaching the cooler weather of autumn, and the days are already significantly shorter than they were a few months ago. Let’s make the most of the summer we have left, shall we?

Here are some ideas that will bring joy to you and your family now and a smile to your face when you look back from the cold of January.

  1. Eat ice cream.
  2. Go to a park and swing as high as you can. Watch your children have the time of their lives.
  3. Lay on the grass, look up, and count the stars.
  4. Find a beach and build a sandcastle.
  5. Make apple pie (or cherry or berry) and eat it. (With a huge scoop of ice cream on top, of course!)
  6. Roast marshmallows over a campfire.
  7. Have a picnic.
  8. Run through the sprinkler.
  9. Find a hill. Sit and watch the sun go down.
  10. Open a window in the early morning, close your eyes, and listen to the world awaken. Better yet, wrap yourself in a blanket and sit outside. Breathe in all that fresh air.
  11. Take your camera with you everywhere and capture these moments. Make a scrapbook or collage and display it all winter to remind you that summer is coming again.

Treasure this time… it will be just a memory all too soon, so make it the best memory you possibly can.

But don’t get depressed thinking about autumn. It has its own brand of beauty, too…

“Autumn is a second spring when every leaf is a flower.” – Albert Camus

Seasons

I have read several authors who compare motherhood, and life in general, to the four seasons in nature. Kattrin Davida, in her book, Tranquil Thoughts on Motherhood, views each season as occurring only once, in progression from the birth of our children to the day they become independent adults, leaving our homes only to return occasionally for a visit.

“Springtime is the greeting of a newborn infant, a time of change, filled with excitement and optimism. It is gone all too quickly but replaced by glorious summer and the childhood years; years of growth, playful happiness and long carefree days. Summer seems never-ending until autumn arrives with its fascination of change and turbulence. Our children transform into teenagers, ripe and bearing the fruits of our love and labors. These can be blustery, moody days but with a little warmth they can be lovely before the beckoning hand of adulthood comes to harvest them and winter falls. The chick flies the coop and the nest is empty as they head for colleges and jobs.” 

Seen this way, then I’m definitely in the middle of a beautiful spring, and quickly approaching summer. I’m looking forward to it!

Jamie Martin of Steady Mom, has another interpretation. She imagines the seasons to be a continuing process in our days, changing as quickly as our children (and we ourselves) do:

“So which season of motherhood do you think you’re in?

Winter – Dark, hard to see growth, long nights

Spring – Growth beginning to bud and blossom, longer days, more light

Summer – Fullness of life in all its glory, Abundance and beauty

Fall – Maturity, learning to let go, the old dropping away to make way for the new 

These seasons sometimes coincide with the ages of our children. But sometimes they fluctuate based on our own growth, needs (& sleep levels, perhaps?!): one day spring, one day winter.” 

Personally, I prefer this comparison over the first one, but that’s just me. Maybe because it means I’ll get more than one summer.  Glass half full, people, come on…

However you view motherhood, always remember that when the cold of winter is upon you, spring is just around the corner. The bright days of summer will return, and you will once again feel the warmth of the sun.

Sounds poetic, no?

OK… to apply this literally, think of the phases your children can go through: one day they are happily running around in diapers, the next you’re wading through potty-training with all its messes, stress and frustration. Even though it feels like they will NEVER get it, and you’ll be changing that kid’s diaper forever, it WILL come to an end and one day soon they will be happily running around again, but this time sans diaper, leaving the stress in the past… something I’ll need to remember in the next few months.

What season are you in? Are you tired and frustrated because of all the night-time feedings your baby still needs? I promise, it won’t feel like winter forever!

No matter what life throws at you, every hard day comes to an end… don’t let it wear you down. If it already is, BREATHE… you WILL get through this! The past is just that, past. Look ahead to the sunny future!

And if you’re like me, in the bright days of spring or summer… sit back, pour a glass of wine, and enjoy it for all its worth.

Hello world!

Welcome!

This space was created with the intention of becoming a place young mothers and homemakers can come to find encouragement for daily life, and ideas for making the most out of our years with little ones.

I believe that motherhood is a profession, one which we should give our all to, just as we would do if we were professional lawyers, doctors, or teachers.

And the truth is, we are all those things, and more. Motherhood is basically a way of saying we are semi-professionals at everything: we are teachers, nurses, judges, referees, coaches, maids, artists, cooks, interior designers, photographers, policewomen, and waitresses. Sure, throughout this crazy life, we need to rely on the “real” professionals occasionally. But, ultimately, we are the ones our children turn to when they need help, advice, or just a hug.

Our children are our life, and I believe that any quality information and inspiration to be found on the subject should be shared with those who can benefit the most from it.

So many mothers consider being a “stay-at-home mom” a position to be ashamed of, as if they are in a lower place than all the working, career-driven women out there. My hope is to dispel those doubts, and to give moms a feeling of accomplishment in all that they do. We can and should be just as career-driven as them. After all, we are the primary influence in the formation of future professionals!

I don’t claim to know it all. I’m just another young mom who is smack dab in the middle of the diapers, laundry, and cleaning that comes with toddlers and babies. I need helpful information just as much as any of you.

My goal is to collect the best information on a variety of subjects (parenting, cooking, home decorating, homeschooling, marriage) and share it, with the hope that it will benefit you as much as it is helping me.

I also want this place to be a smorgasbord of ideas and opinions, so if you ever have advice, helpful hints, links to websites (that will help others reading this blog be better mothers and home-makers), or just want to let me know you dropped by, please leave a comment!

The plan is to share something new once a week… it could be an inspirational quote, articles that have helped me in the past, creative ideas for rainy day activities, or just a favourite recipe. If you have any ideas on things you’d like to see here, please leave a comment after any post (I WILL read them all!) and I will try my best to post things that you will enjoy reading and can apply to your life.

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